When you make a huge leap into marriage, most people recognize that there will be ups and downs.
But how many? I think many of us are surprised at what hits us as a couple.
In the beginning, you and this man have talked, fallen in love and are now mapping out the rest of your life together. You dream of children, grandchildren, purchasing a house together and a whole life of joy and laughter. If you are blessed with ease, this is exactly what you get. There will always be times of boredom or general exhaustion that causes arguments, but you can’t put two people together and expect that it will always be sunshine and roses. There will be times when things are hard, but the whole point of a marriage is to work through it together no matter what.
Sometimes, you may catch yourself looking at your husband and want to pinch yourself with how lucky you feel. Perhaps he’s holding your newborn child, and the look on his face of pure awe make you feel like you couldn’t love him any more than you do right then. Perhaps he’s taken over the house without being asked while you’re suffering with the flu. Either way, you have moments where you want to show your appreciation to him, to let him know that you are seeing what he’s doing for you and the family.
Expressing your admiration and gratitude for all the things that he does is nothing short of a lovely thing to do. This doesn’t necessarily come in the form of physically cool gifts for guys – although I’m sure he wouldn’t say no to a day rock climbing. Giving a gift is a great way to show how much you love someone, and it can make you feel good when you see how much they love it. Then again, that’s what special occasions are generally reserved for, and we all know how hard it is to buy for men! You can show your husband how much you love and appreciate him in about a thousand different ways, so I’m not going to list them all. However, I will list for you three ways you can really show how much you appreciate everything he does for you.
When you’re drowned with work and the kids and doing the housework, the idea of having to give your full attention to one more thing in your life feels too hard. To be honest, it probably IS too difficult to give your undivided attention to yet one more person, but you should try anyway. We live in a world that is fast moving and taking the time to slow down to a stop and have a conversation is something to be treasured. Your husband will love the moments you take to pay some attention to just him, without the distraction of children and technology. Among all the chaos of family life, making time to be just with each other can make a huge difference to your relationship and make you both feel secure. So, take the time to pay attention to just them – you’ll see a marked difference in the close bond you have.
2. Plan A Date
Sometimes, it’s nice to take charge and be the person who plans the date. With kids, you may not get a chance to get out together all that often. You can break the stereotypes and be the one plan a date together. It doesn’t have to be much, especially if the budget is tight. But even a walk with nice scenery and a hot drink can be a great time to just spend together in adult company. You can really make him feel appreciated by taking the initiative to plan something for you both.
Communication is one of the biggest factors that gets lost in a marriage, but if you make the time to talk to each other about how you are feeling, whether those feelings are bad or good, you can keep the marriage alive. Talking about anything and everything together can keep you both feeling connected and happy. Communication is a big factor to solving problems and soothing issues in a relationship. Keeping your communication alive is important for the life of your marriage and your happiness as well as his. Sending cute texts and writing love letters is yet another communicative tool that you can use to show your affection for him.