Three kids. Homeschooling. Groceries. Laundry. It all adds up and can equal neglect. Neglect of ourselves, neglect of friendships, and neglect of our marriage relationship.
I love my husband, like still get butterflies in my stomach when he comes home from work. For some reason that doesn’t translate into changing out of my yoga pants before he comes home or shaving my legs every other day anymore. I’ve had a little child for almost three years now, so that means my hair stays in a bun almost all the time, too. I try to make up for it by wearing something nice about once a week, but there’s something special about getting some one on one time and just hanging out.
My husband is a motorcycle enthusiast. He said when he was younger he decided he wouldn’t marry a woman that would want him to get rid of his motorcycle. It’s one of his favorite hobbies and ways to relax. I love that it’s something we can do together, though with little ones it isn’t very often.
The other day we got to go on a ride together. Yes, hanging out at home together is good to nurture our relationship, but getting away from kids altogether is nice because he has my full attention. When we’re at home, we can be interrupted at any point and I’m typically thinking of a variety of things that need to get done. Letting him pay (even though both our cards go to the exact same bank account) makes it feel like a date. Enter butterflies again. It’s fun.
We weren’t gone for long, probably just an hour, but just getting out of town and not only enjoying each other’s company, but doing something that one of us loves, brings back that spark.
Everyone needs a spark once in a while. It comes for me when we all do a family outing and he helps with the kids. His comes when get time away from the kids. Heh, I guess I’ve never realized how it’s totally opposite occasions for us!
Now that Tulip is a little older and Care Bear can watch her for short periods of time (in between feedings), I can date my husband again. Just a coffee date blocks away does the trick. We picked each other, and when the kids are grown and moved out it’ll only be the two of us again, in sha Allah. Dating keeps us connected so we still are familiar with each other when that time comes, in sha Allah.
I look forward to our next date.
How do you date your husband?